グレンコが書いたEII(INFP)

Two of Ell’s main distinguishing qualities are an interest in human values and a developed capacity for compassion. Eli tries to maintain stable, well-wishing, and friendly relations with others. She listens to people, alleviates their emotional stress, and reconciles arguments while remaining objective. She readily helps those who turn to her for support. She prefers not to focus attention on her offenders and ill-wishers and accumulate ill memories.

Eli keenly discerns what kind of relationships exist between other people. She knows who does and doesn’t get along with whom; however, she is not as adept at correctly discerning the attitudes directed towards herself i.e. in what regard others hold her. Because of this, she may suffer by being too gullible.〔中略〕She does not forgive treachery and betrayals and will break off all relations with those who have seriously let her down. She may, however, forgive her offenders if they sincerely repent and ask for her forgiveness.

Eli is emotionally aware and impressionable; she disapproves of insensitivity and harshness. She is unable to coerce and pressure others to do things, and doesn’t like showing this kind of assertiveness; however, if she is pressured herself, she can deliver a sharp rebuke. At times, she is unsure of herself and loses initiative. Her strongest form of punishment is the complete disregard for another person. Others can take advantage of her because she finds it difficult to turn them down.

She only shares her own experiences with those who are close to her. Internally, she is emotionally strained and nervous. Although she is able to control her own emotions, she occasionally needs to have an emotional release. In such instances, she loses control and may lash out in anger and indignation at her friends and relatives, accusing them of selfish motives, lies and indifference.

One feature that helps to identify Eli is a readiness to be of help to people close to her, with her care shown not only by words but also by deeds. This is especially true of people who have gotten into difficult situations. Eli often tries to mediate between people. She puts herself between warring parties and attempts to keep good relations with everyone involved, by which she often draws fire to herself from both sides.

Its cornerstone is real — not declarative — humanism. What is behind this concept reveals a comparison of the beta sociotype Mentor with the delta sociotype Humanist. The Mentor preaches the universal moral principles with the word, yet in fact, they are often violated. With the Humanist, it is unlikely that he will be a successful public preacher, since nature did not endow him with eloquence, but in everyday affairs, he is closer than any other sociotype to the categorical imperative: do what you want your neighbor to do towards you.

The main problem that worries you is your lack of resolution and assertiveness: an inability to make demands of others in a direct and willful form. There is a measure of caution and timidity that is inherent to your approach to some extent. You are emotionally sensitive to others and don’t want to seem obtrusive.〔中略〕A recommendation for you is to develop your ability to defend yourself: directly express your grievances, do not show mercy towards those who take advantage of you, and don’t allow yourself to be used for anyone’s personal gain. Learn to say “no.” Empathize less with strangers and pay more attention to the people who are close to you.